Fan cuo, the return to the bride’s house
The bride goes home after the wedding — at twelve days or at four months — and the first and second visits are timed to the smoke rising in her mother’s kitchen.
Pronunciation fǎn cuò｜Rites of life｜One entry in the Chaoshan glossary
What it means
At twelve days or at four months the bride goes back to her parents’ house, and this is fan cuo. The first and second visits must be made while the smoke is rising from her mother’s stove; only on the third may she stay the night.
Another stretch of the same period is the taking over of the kitchen: on the third day the bride opens the well, pounds the first rice and stirs the swill, and from that day she runs the cooking.
When you see it
The day is not uniform: some go back at twelve days, some at four months, and some fold the zai kan xin niang, the second showing of the bride, into the lantern festival — the bride dressed as on her wedding day, sitting in the hall or standing by the well at the head of the village, so that the neighbours can look at her once more.
Words easily confused
Fan cuo is going back to the bride’s own family; zhuan cuo is going home. Both words carry cuo, the house, but they are not the same door. Nor is it her first outing after the wedding: the third-day opening of the well and stirring of the swill come first, the visit home after.
Read next: Chaoshan marriage: from the first approach to the return visit.
See also: Rites of life: the five thresholds side by side.
Same group: opening the well, the betrothal meal, the woman who sings the verses, the second showing of the bride.
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