Hao ming ren, the woman of good fortune
The “complete blessing” woman engaged for a Chaoshan wedding: the threading of the face, the dressing of the hair, the bed and the fetching of the bride all call for one.
Pronunciation hǎo mìng rén｜Rites of life｜One entry in the Chaoshan glossary
What it means
Hao ming ren is not a form of address but a qualification: married once and still with that husband, sons and daughters both, parents or parents-in-law still living, and no death in the house in recent years. All four together and she counts as fully blessed, which is why she is also called the quan fu ren. A widow, a remarried woman, a woman who has lost a child, however capable, is not asked.
A wedding needs her in several places, all of them where the bride’s things are handled: threading the face, dressing the hair, setting and spreading the bed, and going to the woman’s house to fetch the bride on the groom’s behalf. One woman may do it all from beginning to end, or a different one may be asked for each.
When you see it
She appears from the pre-wedding threading of the face and stays to the fetching and the bed-making. How many are asked depends on the place: some ask one; some ask one to dress the hair, another to spread the bed, and an elder of the family to fetch the bride.
She must be thanked: a red packet, a pair of red eggs, a length of fine noodles, or a dish from the feast. One such woman in one lane can be asked a dozen times over.
Words easily confused
She is not the go-between and not the qing niang mu: the go-between arranges, the qing niang mu sings the verses, the hao ming ren does with her hands — threads, combs, spreads, fetches. Nor is she the almanac reader, who looks at days and horoscopes rather than at whether a household is complete.
Read next: Chaoshan marriage: from the six rites to the third-day well.
See also: Rites of life: the five thresholds side by side.
Same group: threading the face, the dressing of the hair, setting the bed.
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